Your Take on What Happened ISN’T the Whole Truth

Every experience serves to wake us up. Wake up means to find another perspective to the experience. Pain has the power to transform life for the better or worse. It’s up to us. We are the healer. Gather the broken pieces and slowly put the pieces back together again. Every part of us is worthy of attention. Learn to love even the parts you wish to hide. They all serve if we are willing to look at them as friends and not enemies. It’s not a quick rebuild, but when the intention is set, there is no stopping the restoration.

When our personal foundation blows up we can and will rebuild. We can rebuild as a victim or work our way toward a life of peace and joy. We have the resources within to pick up the pieces and put them back together again.

Inner work takes commitment. The answers we find are only as good and deep as the inner work we’ve done. Everyone has areas to work on. No one is perfect. You may think someone else has it all together, you’re wrong. No one is immune to change, no one has healed all of their wounds. The more you heal, the clearer the answers become, the more confident you become.

No one has the power to fix your life but you. Find people you admire, read about them, talk to them, and study how they made it through adversity. Understand everyone has had demons to battle. No one is perfect. We all fall down and skin our knees. When we realize how individuals we admire have experienced pain and loss, and have picked themselves back up, and not only survived, but thrived, it energizes us to do the inner work needed for transformation.

Listen to your heart. This is the message my kids have heard forever. Listen with respect, but go inward for the answers you seek.

People can only give advice based on their education and training, experience, and understanding. Everyone perceives the world through their experience. Our perception is our reality. There are many schools of thought, books, counselors, spiritual leaders, and other ways to see things, but you and you alone must make your way, and do the work to heal your life.

When we expand our reality, we have opened a new door. When that happens we recognize there is another perspective to the pain we’ve endured. We discover another truth to the situation.

What stops us from doing the work and making the commitment to access the answers and find another perspective?

– FEAR

– The belief we aren’t good enough.

– Our ego too proud and cocky to admit there’s work to be done.

– Getting stuck in limited thinking.

– Guilt

– Embarrassment

– No boundaries.

– Lack of self-respect.

– Judging our self.

– Looking outside without ever doing the inside work.

– ‘What will others think’ mentality.

– Negative self-talk.

– Old tapes of past mistakes replaying constantly.

– Getting comfortable being a victim.

– Convincing ourselves this work isn’t important.

– Giving our self-worth away to others.

– No support.

– Limited definition of love.

– Thinking someone else has the power to fix you.

What helps us access the answers?

– LOVE redefining the definition of love.

– Self-healing

– Quit judging our self.

– Building a network of support

– Willingness to seek help

– Healthy boundaries.

– Able to withstand rejection.

– To view asking for help as courageous vs a weakness.

– Turning past wounds into healing vehicles for others.

– To get real and quit believing you know it all.

– Willing to find another perspective to our stories.

– To believe what we think isn’t the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

Take the time and make the commitment to do the work. You are worth it. It serves everyone.

Author Sandy Powers, Life Coach since 1998

Why do we bury parts of our self?

What would happen if we sat in the discomfort of our own beingness?

What if our out of control internal and/or external behavior was only broken pieces inside of us begging to be heard?

How might our life look different if we started to look at our perceived negatives through the eyes of love?

What if we’re not as bad as we tell our self?

Evolving, wholeness, realized, enlightenment… what does that really mean?

What if our job is to bring back home the pieces of our self we’ve broken off due to the intensity of pain, to reunite all of us back together again, and to realize why we did it? Then to understand the process of coming back home, knowing when we do our happiness will soar and we will be able to, with or without words, give the gift of healing to others.

Envision fragments of self we’ve cut off due to pain. Each piece floating all alone, trying to make it through life, without the rest of us. Only returning when a like pain hits again, only to be thrown back out into the ethers when the intensity dies down.

What if our job was to sort through every single thing we’ve been taught via our culture, society, and upbringing, and make a list of all the good and all the bad parts about our self?

Then what if we allowed a researcher full access to our list? What if our scientific researcher used certain lenses for the research project? What if those lenses were pure love?

What if our researcher systematically took each item on the list out, analyzed it, held it, looked at it, spent time with it, listened, and discovered through the process the way to integrate the broken off piece back into wholeness?

What if the researcher then gave to us the process of bringing every piece of our self back home? What if after receiving the information we realized what we were taught wasn’t the whole truth, it was only based on the understanding of the teacher at the time? What if some of our behavior we put in the bad column really wasn’t bad?

What if the process gave us the understanding that when we hurt others and or self it wasn’t because we were bad, but because we were hurt? What if we also understood the coping skills used was not the most up-to-date coping skills available? What if there really was a method to our madness and a way out? How might our life look different?

Author Sandy Powers, Life Coach since 1998